I arrived on a cold, cloudy night in Jerusalem, my first day in Israel. I hadn‘t found an apartment for my stay during the exchange program, but online I found a somewhat shady and unclear hostel. When I arrived, no one was there except for another Swiss guy and an older man who was calmly watching TV in the makeshift hostel courtyard. His name was Dan, but everybody call him Sabba. He was delighted to see another Swiss person in the hostel and gave me my first beer in Jerusa-lem, straight from the fridge- a Löwenbräu. It was oddly funny that my first beer in Israel was a Bavarian one from Germany. That beer was the start of an unconventional relationship with one of my future flatmates in Israel.
Most of the time, he comes home trom the bar in the early evening. lies down in his bed, and stares intently at his IPad. The sounds of the almost emotionless speaker with a deep voice and the war noises indicate that he is once again watching a documentary on the Second World War. He often falls asleep during the documentary. It is rare for him to get up with pain and walk to the bathroom to take his medication. It happens more often that he gets up in the middle of the night to go back to the bar.
A week after I met Sabba at a hostel, inside of Jerusalem, he was invited to the wedding of one of his daughters. He was very excited, looking forward to seeing his family again, but also uncertain whether things might turn negative. I didn't ask him in detail about his past with his family and why the relationship was so strained. I could imagine it in my fantasy what happend.
The day after the wedding, Sabba seemed like the happiest man on earth. Shortly thereafter, he received some memorable photos from the wedding from his daughter, which he proudly showed us. His eyes sparkled every time he talked about the wedding.
Sabba is the funny guy for everyone. Eloquent and smart, he has a good sense of humor and knows when to push the boundaries with jokes and when to hold back. He comes across as a tough man who's been through wars, often referring to his time with tanks. Some would say he's a typical Zionist. Howe-ver, to me, he embodies the values of post-World War II Americans - justice, democracy, and equal opportunity. He is a very strong critic of Netanyahu's regime, settlement policies, and the increasingly powerful ultra-Orthodox movement. Sabba enjoys telling stories, drinking, and chatting with new people.
He's a good man - tough on the outside but with a soft heart.